Table of contents:
- Recognizing the Signs of Savior Complex
- The Bad Impact of Savior Complex on Life
- How to Overcome Savior Complex Behavior
Helping and helping others is indeed a commendable act. However, when you have a savior complex behavior, the help you do actually makes other people feel annoyed and uncomfortable
Savior complex is a behavior that makes a person tend to always help or help others excessively. Those who have savior complex behavior are even willing to sacrifice themselves to help others, regardless of whether the person needs their help or not.
Recognizing the Signs of Savior Complex
Here are some signs that indicate someone is suffering from a savior complex:
1. Willing to make excessive sacrifices
The sign most attached to a savior complex is that they often make excessive sacrifices to help others, regardless of whether that person needs their help or not. Not only energy, what is sacrificed can also be in the form of time or money.
2. Tend to have excessive empathy
Contrary to psychopaths, people with savior complex behavior usually have an exaggerated sense of empathy. This is what makes it easy for them to feel pity or pity for people who are in trouble, so they will try to help as much as possible.
3. Likes to influence others
Not only like to help, people who suffer from savior complex also like to influence or force to change other people's lives to be better according to their opinion. Changed conditions can include many things, ranging from behavior, hobbies, even careers.
4. Feeling that you have a solution to every problem
Every problem doesn't always have an immediate solution, especially big ones like illness, trauma, or grief.
However, people with savior complex always feel they have a solution to every problem experienced by others, even though that person is not necessarily willing to accept or implement the solution given.
The Bad Impact of Savior Complex on Life
Helping others should have a positive impact on maintaining good relationships. However, for savior complex actors, the good actions they take actually have a negative impact on their lives, both physically, mentally, and socially.
The bad effects that may be experienced by savior complex actors include:
- It drains a lot of energy, gets tired more easily, even experiences burnout
- Ruin the relationship that has been established
- Feeling guilty if his efforts to help others fail to produce good results
- Experiencing various mental problems, such as decreased self-confidence, frustration and uncontrollable emotions, even depression if you always fail to help others
How to Overcome Savior Complex Behavior
The following are some ways that can be done to overcome and prevent the behavior of saviora complex:
Learn to be a good listener
Try to learn to be a good listener when friends, relatives, or partners share the problems they are facing. In addition, avoid the habit of interrupting the conversation, let alone to give suggestions or solutions.
Offer as much help as possible
Offering help to others who are in trouble is actually okay to do, as long as it is according to ability. Make sure that the assistance provided is voluntary and not coercive, especially when you expect something in return or something.
Respect other people's decisions
Everyone must have faced problems. Even though you can provide input or help to others, respect the decision of that person which may be considered the best and most solution.
Savior complex behavior may seem normal, but if it continues, the impact can disrupt or even damage the good relationship that has been established so far.
If you feel you have a savior complex behavior and find it difficult to overcome it, don't hesitate to consult a psychologist to get the right advice and treatment.