Table of contents:
- Characteristics of Permissive Parenting
- The Impact of Permissive Parenting for Children
- How to Change Permissive Parenting
Mom and Dad are parents who don't give a lot of rules and rarely discipline their children? If so, then such parenting can be categorized as permissive parenting. The question is, is this kind of parenting really good for your little one's growth and development?
Permissive parenting is the opposite of helicopter parenting. Permissive parenting is often known as pampering parenting, because it is characterized by the freedom and openness given by parents to their children.
Permissive parents try to raise their children in a non-authoritarian way, so they rarely set clear rules and expectations for their children.
Characteristics of Permissive Parenting
The following are some characteristics of parents who apply permissive parenting:
- Not many set rules or standards of behavior for children
- Not giving clear responsibility for children
- Inconsistent with the created rules
- Rarely discipline or give consequences to children
- Trust children to make big decisions, even though this decision needs to be considered by parents
- Often giving gifts or money so that the child behaves well
- Looks more like friends than parents
- Does not limit children's playing time, including screen time for playing gadgets or online games
The Impact of Permissive Parenting for Children
Although the parents' goals are good and they want to give full love to their children, the application of permissive parenting in fact risks having an unfavorable impact on the growth and development of children's character, you know.
The following are some of the negative effects of permissive parenting for children:
1. Low academic achievement
There is research that says that permissive parenting has the risk of making children's academic achievement low. This is because permissive parents rarely set targets and generally do not have any expectations of their children.
Well, this can then make the child lack the motivation and fighting power to achieve good grades or maybe various goals in life.
2. Difficult to make decisions
Parents who take care of their children permissively will generally be less involved or rarely give input in many things that need to be decided by the child. They tend to let their children make decisions and solve their own problems.
In fact, children still need the role of parents when they are facing problems or have to make decisions. If this happens continuously, this can result in the child having poor social skills.
3. Difficult to manage stress
Children raised with permissive parenting also generally have difficulty managing stress. This is because they are not used to controlling their emotions well, especially when faced with situations where they don't get what they want.
Research shows that children who are not used to managing stress well are more at risk of developing into individuals who lack empathy, are difficult to get along with, and have a tendency to do unhe althy things as adults, such as frequently drinking alcohol or using drugs. - illegal drugs.
4. Difficulty managing time or habits
Because they are not used to rules and discipline, children who are raised with permissive parenting also usually have difficulty managing their own time and habits. This can result in them spending too much time playing and too little time studying.
This problem can make a child's academic achievement problematic and it can be difficult for them to be educated properly at school.
How to Change Permissive Parenting
Considering the unfavorable impact on children's growth and development, permissive parenting should be replaced with other parenting patterns, such as authoritative parenting. The following are some ways that Mom and Dad can apply to change from permissive parenting to authoritative parenting:
- Make basic rules at home for children, for example regarding household chores, sleep schedules, or play schedules. This is useful for making children understand how they should behave and be responsible.
- Try to stay firm and consistent with the rules.
- Explain to the child why the rules that Mom and Dad make need to be obeyed.
- Give consequences, in the form of a warning or light punishment, if the child violates the rules. Also make sure the child understands why the consequences are given to him.
- Appreciate every effort your child makes to obey the rules, for example by giving a compliment or a warm hug.
It's okay to pamper children once in a while. However, if too often or to apply permissive parenting, this is not good for their growth and development. Therefore, if Mom and Dad have been accustomed to permissive parenting, try changing this parenting pattern for the better.
However, if Mom and Dad find it difficult to change permissive parenting patterns, don't hesitate to consult a psychologist regarding this.