Table of contents:
- Knowing Different Types of Perfectionist Traits
- The Characteristics of a Perfectionist Child
- The Causes of Perfectionism in Children
- Dangers If Children Become Perfectionists
Perfectionism in children can indeed motivate them to want to learn and do things as well as possible. However, if not controlled, this trait can actually interfere with the mental he alth and development of children, you know
People who have perfectionist traits generally always try to look perfect and want to have the highest achievements. A perfectionist will also set standards that are too high and often criticize himself or even others too harshly.
At first glance, being a perfectionist looks positive and can be a motivation, right? However, this attitude is not a good thing to nurture, especially in children.
Knowing Different Types of Perfectionist Traits
Basically, perfectionism is divided into three types, namely self-oriented perfectionism, others, and encouragement from the surrounding environment.
Children who are perfectionists tend to think that they have to be perfect. So he will set high standards for himself and avoid making mistakes as much as possible when doing things.
Meanwhile, children with other-oriented perfectionism have high standards for those around them.
It's different from perfectionism because of the encouragement from the surrounding environment. In this type, children will feel they have to prove their abilities so that they can be appreciated and accepted by others.
The Characteristics of a Perfectionist Child
In children, the characteristics of perfectionism that appear can vary, depending on the age and type of perfectionist experienced. However, in general, a perfectionist child will exhibit the following signs or behaviors:
- Excessive fear and anxiety about failure
- Difficulty completing and often delaying tasks for fear of feeling like a failure or imperfection
- Hard to accept mistakes or defeat
- Frequently criticize yourself and others
- Difficulty making decisions and prioritizing tasks
- Often feel dissatisfied with something that has been done
- Quickly angry and offended
- Critical of other people's performance
The Causes of Perfectionism in Children
The reason why a child becomes a perfectionist is difficult to know for sure. Even so, there are several factors that can increase the risk or foster perfectionism in children, namely:
- Academic demands
- Low self-esteem or lack of self-confidence
- Excessive desire to please others
- Parents who are perfectionists or require their children to achieve too high
- Social media influence
- Suffer from certain psychological disorders, such as eating disorders or OCD
Dangers If Children Become Perfectionists
Instead of being a motivation, perfectionism can actually make children feel excessively afraid or even unable to accept failure and mistakes. Perfectionist children also often keep to themselves the feelings of fear and sadness that they feel.
They don't want other people to know that they are having a hard time. They feel, showing complaints will make them look weak and helpless.
Uncontrolled, this perfectionism can make children vulnerable to stress and even more serious mental he alth problems, such as anxiety disorders, depression, and self-harm.
In certain cases, having difficulty accepting failure can even make a perfectionist child punish himself or even commit suicide.
Well, Mom and Dad, those are the things you need to know about perfectionism in children. If your little one shows the characteristics of a perfectionist, it's better if Mom and Dad take immediate action to deal with it to avoid various dangers, OK.
Invite your little one to do positive self-talk. Give the right praise when your little one achieves success. In addition, help your little one to improve good self-esteem and recognize what things he can control and what he can't.
Also convey that whatever he has achieved, it has made Mom and Dad proud. Emphasize to him that no human is “perfect”.
If your little one's perfectionist attitude has interfered with his learning, growth and development process, or his he alth, Mom and Dad are encouraged to take the Little One to a psychologist or psychiatrist. This is important so that your little one does not experience excessive stress due to his perfectionist nature.