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Be careful in making a decision to commit and get married is a natural thing. However, if you are afraid of it excessively, you may have gamophobia. Come on, identify the signs of gamophobia and how to overcome them
Gamophobia is an exaggerated fear of making commitments and getting married. This phobia can arise due to trauma from past relationship failures or childhood experiences, such as seeing a bad parental relationship or divorce.
Most people who are gamophobia think that marriage will only add new problems that cannot be solved and they don't want to be trapped in a relationship that is considered complicated.
Recognizing the Signs of Gamophobia
It's not just an ordinary fear, the fear experienced by a gamophobia is long-term and has a direct impact on his personal life, including school or work, for at least 6 months or more.
A gamophobia will also show several psychological symptoms that occur consistently, including:
- Feeling excessive and uncontrollable anxiety when thinking about commitments and the future of the current relationship
- Avoid all talk about marriage
- Always thinking about the breakdown of a relationship
- Feeling depressed when in a relationship
- Ending a good relationship because of the need to “run away”
- Avoid serious relationship and prefer relationship without status
In addition, by thinking only about commitment and marriage, a gamophobia is likely to experience physical symptoms, such as:
- Heart pounding
- Shortness of breath
- chest pain
How to deal with Gamophobia
Even though people with gamophobia are very afraid of commitment, that doesn't mean they are reluctant to enter into a romantic relationship with someone. Many of them also choose to continue dating their partners without any plans to get married. In fact, there are also those who like to live life by remaining single.
If you are gamophobia and are in a relationship, the most important thing is to tell your partner from the start about your situation and life choices that make you happy. This is done as an effort to avoid ghosting and hurting your partner's heart.
However, if you want to overcome your gamophobia and want to learn to make a serious commitment in your relationship, there are several ways that might help, including:
Self-therapy is a great way to identify possible reasons why commitment or marriage is such a big fear in your life. After that, think about what you really want and need in a relationship.
If you and your partner want to establish a committed relationship for marriage, but something is holding you back and preventing you from taking a step toward commitment, couples therapy may be something you can do.
So that you and your partner can practice making commitments together, try the following:
- Spend weekends together, for example out of town.
- Get in the habit of holding hands in public or around people you know.
- Talk about things you want to do together during the holidays.
- Make a plan every time you will do activities with your partner a week, 2 weeks, or a month in advance, to challenge yourself to live that plan.
- Take a walk while looking at an apartment or house, and think about what it would be like to share a house with your partner.
Consulting with a therapist
If you have trouble, you can ask a psychologist or psychiatrist for help to deal with the phobia you are experiencing. A psychologist or psychiatrist can help explore the reasons why you're afraid to commit and find ways to work around it. For example, by providing counseling, psychotherapy, or cognitive behavioral therapy.
Medicine is usually not required in the treatment of a specific phobia. However, if you experience panic attacks, anxiety, and depression, your psychiatrist may prescribe some antidepressant medication.
So, if your partner or yourself has gamophobia and you find it difficult to handle it yourself, don't hesitate to consult a psychologist for the right advice and treatment, so that you and your partner can carry out a joint commitment without any obstacles.