Table of contents:
Being in a relationship after a cheating partner is not easy. How could I not, the trust that had been given to the couple was simply crushed. However, if you and your partner still want to improve your relationship and recommit, there are some tips you can try to keep it going
There are many things that can cause someone to cheat, ranging from lack of intimacy or affection, lack of communication, boredom, unsatisfactory sex, or certain problems, such as addiction to sex, alcohol, or illegal drugs.
Infidelity is one of the main causes of cracks or even the end of a relationship. Not a few married couples who divorced after facing infidelity.
However, there are some couples who decide to stay because of some considerations, for example, for the future of their children and family.
Some Tips for Repairing Relationships After an Affair
The existence of infidelity can trigger feelings of anger, shame, guilt, regret, to depression. However, don't rush into making decisions when you're at the peak of your emotions. Take some time alone to recuperate so that your emotions become more stable and you can think clearly.
Before choosing to return to a partner who has cheated on you, you should ask yourself, do you really want to give him a chance and trust him again? Have you forgiven his actions and not harboring anger?
If the answer is yes, it means you are ready to start reconnecting with him. So that your relationship can be re-established properly after an affair, there are some tips that you can try, namely:
1. Breaking up with a third person
A cheating partner must realize his mistake and promise not to do it again. One form of responsibility that can be done is to cut ties with third people. Ask him to commit to no longer communicating with that person.
If an affair occurs with a coworker, limit communication to work and professional relationships only.
2. Committed to always speak the truth
Honesty is one of the cornerstones of a he althy relationship. In fact, research shows that being honest with each other makes the chances of conflict in a relationship lower.
Make a commitment with your partner to open up and talk honestly about whatever is going on. This openness can help both of you to understand each other's feelings and realize each other's mistakes. This can also be a step to improve communication with your partner.
3. Making rules to restore trust
Being more possessive after a cheating partner might be a form of defense so that the act doesn't happen again. Try making some rules that you both agree on, for example giving news at certain times, coming home on time, or being allowed to see what's on your phone.
However, don't be so possessive that you always accuse your partner of being mean, okay? This attitude can actually worsen the relationship and allow the couple to return to past mistakes.
4. Improve relationship quality
After forgiving each other, focus on your relationship going forward. There are many things you can do to improve the quality of your relationship, such as going to bed at the same time. Before going to bed, you and your partner can do pillow talk to strengthen the relationship.
Also, try to make time for me time together. When filling this time, do various interesting things so that you can get back together, such as cooking, watching movies, shopping, or gardening together.
You and your partner can also schedule regular vacations to create sweet experiences and memories.
5. Undergo marriage counseling
For married couples, undergoing marriage counseling can be a good way to improve their relationship after an affair.
When undergoing the counseling session, you and your partner will be guided by the counselor to forgive each other, accept each other's mistakes, foster good communication, and be willing to open a new page in the relationship you are in.
Separating or returning to a partner who has cheated is a choice of each individual. If you decide to reconnect even though you have been betrayed, try the tips above to make your relationship with your partner better.
Whatever your reasons for choosing to stay with him, make sure it doesn't sacrifice your own feelings and he alth, okay? This is important to prevent you from various mental and physical he alth problems.
It is not easy to build trust and reconnect with a cheating partner. However, you need to be patient and keep positive thinking that this relationship can still be maintained.
If you and your partner feel that you need help or find it difficult to follow the methods suggested above, try to consult a psychologist.