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Miscarriage or the loss of an unborn baby often brings deep sadness and sorrow to every couple who is expecting a baby. If you are experiencing it, some of the following ways you might try to be able to rise from sadness and recover
Physically, you may be able to recover quickly from a miscarriage. However, emotionally, you may not be able to recover quickly. The reason is, even though they haven't had the chance to hold their baby yet, the inner bond between mother and baby has generally been established since in the womb.
Although it's difficult, don't let this make you sink into prolonged grief, okay? This can actually lead to depression or even a fear of having more children.
Emotional Condition After Miscarriage
When you have a miscarriage, you can feel a mix of emotions, from sadness, anxiety, fear, disappointment, to guilt. This bad experience is certainly hard to go through.
As a result, you may often feel tired, have trouble sleeping, lose your appetite, have difficulty concentrating, cry a lot, and feel like you always want to be away from other people.
If the emotional shock you feel is very strong, suicidal thoughts may arise in your mind. These complaints generally point to post-miscarriage depression.
Recovering from a miscarriage does not mean completely forgetting about the event. However, it is more of a learning process to be able to accept the harsh reality that has happened and rise slowly from the feeling of being down.
Even though it's hard to go through, try to remind yourself that this difficult time will pass and you will recover. Remember that miscarriage is not the end of everything and try to always think positively and take lessons from every event.
After recovering from that bad experience, you can try to get pregnant again and maybe next time, you can have a he althy baby. If you're not ready to live it right now, give yourself time to heal physically and emotionally.
Stay Strong During the Recovery Period After Miscarriage
Miscarriage can extinguish the spirit of a mother-to-be. However, don't let it drag on, okay? If you find it difficult to get through the period after a miscarriage, you can try the following tips:
1. Don't blame yourself or others
Try not to blame yourself for your miscarriage or anyone else, including your doctor, midwife, or partner. Even though it's painful on the inside, you also need to learn not to blame the experience. Trust me, blaming yourself or others won't help you much.
On the contrary, being at peace with yourself and your circumstances will go a long way in helping you through the recovery process. If you find it helpful, you can also try to get closer to God to get inner peace.
2. Try to open yourself
While recovering, you can try to open up and express any negative feelings that may arise. You don't need to keep these feelings to yourself because they will make you feel even more depressed.
However, don't push yourself if you're not ready to open up to other people. Give yourself and your partner time to grieve and share your feelings with each other.
If it is difficult to cope with the burden or inner pressure you feel, do not hesitate to ask for help from a psychologist or counselor.
3. Take time off work and get more rest
If you are a worker, take time off from work even if you are physically recovered and may feel fine. This can help you to take a break from your routine and make the most of your recovery.
If you already have children, enlist the help of relatives, friends, or babysitters to help look after them temporarily. You can also ask a domestic helper to help with household chores, if you find it difficult to do it yourself.
4. Ignore other people's comments
No need to listen to other people's comments that are not pleasing to the heart, for example when someone asks you to quickly forget the event or makes a statement that makes you feel sad and guilty again.
When you hear these comments, try to respond in a positive way and remind yourself that they may only be trying to provide emotional support so you can recover.
5. Give yourself time to socialize again
It's okay if you don't feel ready to meet other people, let alone come to visit the birth of a baby from relatives or other events that remind you of the miscarriage you experienced. You deserve some time for yourself during this time of recovery and others will understand that too.
Miscarriage is a traumatic event that can bring deep sadness. However, try not to let it interfere with your daily life, as well as your he alth. Even though it's not easy, you have to stay strong and go back to life with passion, okay!
An important thing that you also need to remember, don't ever hesitate to consult a psychologist if you find it difficult to recover from sadness after a miscarriage. A psychologist will help you deal with it so you can get back to your normal activities.