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As parents, mothers and fathers need to know what type and method of parenting is right for the little one, because not all parenting is good for children. Be careful, the wrong parenting can have a bad impact on the child's future
Applying the right parenting pattern can have a good influence on behavior, growth and development, academic achievement, to the mental he alth of children in the future. Shaping your little one's personality as a capital for his future is one of your duties as a parent.
Here Are Four Kinds Of Parenting
Each parent has their own way of nurturing and educating their child. In general, there are 4 types of parenting styles, namely:
1. Indifferent parenting
Parents who apply this parenting style think that children must be able to take care of themselves. Parents with indifferent parenting tend to be undemanding, unresponsive, and rarely communicate with their children.
Parents may still provide for their child's basic needs, such as providing food, clothing, and shelter, but not providing emotional attention and support to the child. In fact, in severe enough cases, parents may ignore the child completely or appear to have abandoned the child.
Children who are educated with this parenting style will generally experience various social problems, behavior, and have poor academic achievement.
2. Permissive parenting
Parents with this type of parenting are too obedient to their children's wishes, easily forgive children for serious problems, do not set strict discipline and boundaries between children and parents, and rarely give punishment when children violate the rules.
Instead of feeling like friends, applying this type of parenting style actually makes parents not respected by their children. In addition, children raised with permissive parenting also tend to be irritable, rebellious, aggressive, less independent, and have difficulty controlling themselves.
3. Authoritarian parenting
Authoritarian or dictatorial parenting requires children to always follow the rules, but does not provide an explanation of why the rules were made. If the child violates it, the punishment will be given. In fact, not infrequently the punishment given is quite harsh. Parents who apply this parenting style also often become overparenting.
For example, a child leaves unfinished homework to play with his friends. Instead of telling and helping children to complete their tasks, parents with this parenting style do not hesitate to scold or even yell at their children in front of their friends and forbid children to play at all.
This kind of parenting can indeed make children obey the rules. However, children will find it difficult to socialize, have low self-esteem, are prone to depression, and often lie to avoid punishment.
In fact, not a few children who are raised with authoritarian parenting will get injured inner children, have personality disorders, and become someone who does not hesitate to commit acts of violence.
4. Authoritative parenting
According to research, authoritative parenting is the type of parenting that has the most positive impact on children compared to other types of parenting. This parenting is done by applying clear and firm rules to children.
Unlike authoritarian parenting, authoritative parenting is still accompanied by support and affection. Parents who have an authoritative parenting style will explain the reasons why rules are formed and why children must obey them.
For example, when a child does not want to eat, parents can forbid the child not to leave the dining table until the food is finished. At the same time, parents ask why he doesn't want to eat, then give the understanding that eating is good for he alth and makes him energetic while studying and playing.
Children raised with this type of parenting tend to be able to control their emotions, be more independent, responsible, cooperative, and open. Some studies even state that children who are raised with authoritative parenting have good academic achievements or intelligence levels.
Applying the right parenting style is one of the responsibilities of parents to their children.However, it is important to remember that every child has a different character and personality type. A good parenting method for one child is not necessarily suitable for another child.
To determine the most appropriate parenting style for your little one, don't hesitate to discuss with the school teacher. If necessary, you can also consult a psychologist.